Afraid to start something?

Posted by on Mar 25, 2013 in Business, Entrepreneurship | 0 comments

A lot of us prefer to stick to our own ‘comfort zone’. We are afraid of changes. Risks. Losses. Uncertainties.

That’s why most of us do not dare to start something. We’re afraid that it might fail, that we’ll be wasting our time, or worse, we might lose our hard-earned savings.

But if we don’t make that first step, we’ll forever be stuck in the same place 5 or 10 years from now.

This is what happened to me before. I’ve always dreamed of starting my own small business. I do have big dreams….but everything big, starts from a humble beginning. So I want to start small. But wanting to start, and willing to start, are 2 different things. So I waited and waited…planned…dreamed…and gave up even before I started something. Too worried of the invisible things that lie ahead. Things that are made of nothing, but my own imagination.

But in 2013, I took the leap of faith. I thought bout what could be the worst case scenario if I were to start a business? Money gone…time gone….but that’s about it right? Not too bad.

So I started a small business which sells the things I like most – toys and collectibles. I started Brick Box Malaysia, a LEGO reseller.

True, I invested a lot in it….and true, I might end up suffering heavy losses. But it’s a risk I’m willing to take.

In the past 2 months or so (I started in Feb), I feel that I’ve learnt a lot. I met up with different kind of people, and I’m learning to deal with different type of personalities. It’s a big challenge, but I’m enjoying every moment of it. :)

I don’t know how long this will last….or if there’s an end (good/bad) to it. But like I’ve always told my friends….if you are afraid of starting something….just START and then you will see if you are still afraid. Most often than not, it’s not as scary as it seems. And once you’ve started, the path will be much clearer for you and your next mission is to get the right momentum and improvise.

So go start your dream, start something. Try it and don’t worry so much. Worry only when the issues are there. And treat those issue solving process, as part of the learning as well.

Most importantly, enjoy the journey :)

 

Remember, do not be afraid of starting something. But be very afraid of not starting something until it’s too late.

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Beware of people who talk bad about others

Posted by on Dec 8, 2012 in Self-help | 0 comments

Some people love to spread rumor. Sometimes even twisting the rumor to their own preferences (customising?). Some can be ridiculously funny, some harmless but some can be very bad and mean.

Perhaps they have a lot of creativity juice in them or perhaps, they have the dream of becoming a tabloid writer or a novelist? Whatever they want to be or want to do, one piece of advice to them – don’t overdo it.

Harmless stuff can be fun. But not when it becomes twisted from the truth. And definitely not when you spread the false stuff to other people.

Always remember what you say and do, show what kind of person you are even if you yourself don’t know it. 

If you can talk bad about me in front of A, B and C, what makes A, B, C think that you won’t talk bad about them in front of other people?

Do some self-reflection before it’s too late.

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Misconception

Posted by on Nov 23, 2012 in Self-help | 0 comments

Having more certificates doesn’t make you smarter.

Driving a bigger car doesn’t mean you’re richer.

Reaching your destination earlier doesn’t mean you’re a skillful driver.

Using a more expensive camera doesn’t make you a better photographer.

Staying in a big 3-storey house doesn’t mean you can look down on your other neighbours.

Being there doesn’t mean you’re fulfilling your duty as a good son/daughter (especially if you’re not listening).

Having more experience doesn’t mean your decision is always right.

Working more hours doesn’t mean you are more efficient.

Finishing more books doesn’t make you more knowledgeable.

Drinking more alcohol doesn’t make you more man.

Smoking more cigarrettes doesn’t make you cooler.

 

And having all the above, not necessarily will make you happier.

But one thing for sure, having all the above does not mean your life is more precious and you are worth more than other people around you.

Remember, throw away your misconceptions because more often than not, those are the things that keep you blinded for so long.

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Things that matter cannot be quantified

Posted by on Nov 14, 2012 in Self-help | 0 comments

I came from a consulting background and in our world, NUMBERS rule them all. Everything can be quantified – people, hours spent on project, minutes spent on meetings, project cost, mileage from office to client site, per diem, etc. And if you are sitting in the office without any assignment, it means you have ZERO chargeable hour….and low utilization rate, which means you’re not earning money for the company.

Chargeable hours low = not valuable to the company. Easy isn’t it?

But is this the only thing a company should look at? Is this the only thing WE should look at, be it in our career or in our daily life?

I don’t think so. There are a lot more intangible things that we should not ignore – how is the team spirit whenever this person is present, what is the customer’s feedback on his work, how is his work attitude, etc.

Obvious as it seems, these things are hard to be quantified and thus, hard to be measured by the company.

Similarly in our life, we always tend to neglect things that we cannot quantify.

  • The short but memorable time we spent with someone.
  • The importance of a hand-made gift if compared to an expensive one.
  • A 10 minutes life lesson sharing session with a Cancer patient compared to a 30 minutes motivational talk from a millionaire.
  • Or the value of an employee who is talented in his work but can’t work with other people, versus an employee who has normal skill set but can bring the whole team together.

Perhaps, it is the way we all have been brought up, in this world which values numbers and everything quantifiable. But you and I both know that there are so many important things in life which cannot be quantified. Things that really matter in life.

I used to think that way….where spending a certain amount of time with my loved ones is more important than the quality of the time spent itself….until one day, someone dear to me told me….it matters not how many days we spend together, but the precious moments that we create from those time we spend together. Which, really makes sense to me.

So the next time you want to spend time or do something, make sure that you stop caring so much about the things that can be quantified and start focusing in creating precious moments that cannot be quantified at all.

Because life, in the end, is not something that can be quantified itself.

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Forgive, but not forget

Posted by on Nov 4, 2012 in Self-help | 0 comments

Every time someone we know did something to us that we don’t like, we’ll be devastated or angry. It can be something as simple as not following a clear instruction, to something as complicated and as heart-wrenching as betrayal. And whenever things like this happen, people around us will tell us, don’t dwell on it for too long. Learn to forgive and forget.

The thing about this “forgive and forget” is that it never work for most of us. How can we forget something that has such a big impact (good or bad) in our life before? How can we forget setbacks which have taught us those valuable life lessons? How can we ignore the things that our loved ones did not long ago?

Well, we can’t and we don’t need to. The burnt marks will always be there, but they are not that bad.

All we need to do is to forgive. It’s okay to remember those things, but learn to let go and forgive. Pick it up from there and move on with our life as a better person.

I’m saying this because, there will be times when our loved ones say the wrong things to us during an argument. You know, when everything is so heat up, people tend to lose their cool and not think properly before they speak. And once spoken, there’s no “UNDO” button that we can use or “Recall” option like our Microsoft Outlook. We will have to let those words sink in, and do whatever mess they want to do in our heart.

Then, we need to let go. We need to know that people do tend to say the wrong words once in a while. But as long as they know and they are sorry…..then we must make sure we forgive them and never dig back the past again.

From a personal experience, a loved one said something to me few days ago which hurt me very badly. And I can still remember those words clearly.

But do I hate her for it? Do I dislike her for it?

No. Because she has already apologised and we need to let bygones be bygones.

And no, I cannot forget because I don’t have short term memory loss. But that doesn’t mean, I cannot forgive.

And to me, the willingness to forgive should always be there in our heart because it will really bring us far.

So, learn to forgive :)

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